"That's the thing, Pony, she wanted independence from that, from being taken care of by you all the time." She paused and thought about how she could word it so it made sense to a man. Problem was, she had little experience with that. It took her a few minutes to think of something, "For instance, if I had a brother, I would be overwhelmed if he continued to be more protective of me than allowed me to spread my wings, does that make sense? Women have it different than men. You are all allowed to do most things, where we have to fight for a lot of things for us to be able to do. We are beholden to a lot more rules than you have, we aren't allowed to stretch our wings the way men are encouraged to. In this case, all she wanted was to have the freedom to do with her heart what she wanted and you were telling her no. And when you weren't happy for her happiness, she was hurt by you. She wanted so badly just for you to be happy that she was happy, and you fought her every time, from your own words to me once." She was calm and not judging him, that was clear, and hopefully he wouldn't get defensive. She knew him well enough to know it could go sour, but it needed to be discussed.